5 Lies moms Believe about starting a business

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Girlfriend, far far too often we allow ourselves to believe things about ourselves, our situation, and our lives that simply are not true. Becoming an entrepreneur, a mompreneur is no different. Lies and excuses multiply like wild fire when we try and convince ourselves this business thing probably isn’t a good idea. I’m here to tell you it CAN be done! I’ve done it. My mama’s done it. Hundreds of women are doing it and You can too! Below I’m debunking the myths and lies you might try and give me if we were sitting on the couch having a heart to heart about why you haven’t started already!

Lie #1 - It’s Not The Responsible Thing To Do

There’s a lot of people in this world that don’t have that whole entrepreneurial spirit like you and I do (yes you have it…or you wouldn’t be reading this - LOL). They go into work everyday, punch a time clock, and come home. Instead of daydreaming about being their own boss and setting their own hours, their goals include benefit packages and climbing the ladder. And that’s totally ok. We are all wired differently. But if and when you decide to take the leap and start your business, you may find some of these people will try and keep you from pursuing those dreams. Even though it might be unintentional, they can leave you feeling silly for wanting such things. They may try to convince you the only way you can be successful is if you work 8-5, five days a week and have a 401k. But here’s the deal, there is NOT just one definition of success. Their meaning of success may be security such as a nice retirement while yours is being able to work from home and not having to put your kids in daycare. I’m not saying either measure of success is better than the other. My point is that you need to define it for yourself and then decide with your spouse (and the Lord) if it is the responsible thing for your family. This isn’t something you should let your peers decide for you.

ACTION STEP - Define what success looks like for you.

Lie #2 - I Don’t Have Enough Time

Listen, I’m not doubting that you don’t already have a gazillion things going on. But what I am saying is that more than likely there are chunks of time you (we) spend doing something that may not be important. Did you know the average American spends over 3 hours per DAY on their cell phone. Think about how many times a day or week you catch yourself mindlessly scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest. If we took an honest audit of every second of our day, I would be willing to bet we could find at least a few hours a day we could be building a business. Heck, even if it was just 1 hour a day! We could do big things with that time!

ACTION STEP - Do a time audit. Take note of every single thing you do for a week.

Lie #3 - I’m Not Qualified

Says who? I didn’t go to college for wedding planning or business. I actually have a degree in nursing. You don’t have to have a masters in business to become your own boss! Let’s use nursing as an example. I went to school for 4 (LONG) years and if I’m being honest, I learned more about my profession in the first year I was in the ER than I did my entire schooling. On the job training trumps the classroom every day of the week in my book!

Dive in, dig deep, do the research, and go for it. The internet is packed with useful information on just about anything imaginable. When I first started Le Rae Events, I knew the names of about 5 flowers. Did I curl up in a ball and say “I’m not trained in floral design so maybe I shouldn’t do this.”? HECK NO! I found a great website and learned as much as I could. I still do this to this day looking for new flower varieties. Girl, when all else fails GOOGLE it! LOL!

Pray for wisdom and guidance along the way.

ACTION STEP - Research, Research, and Research

Lie #4 - I Don’t Have The Money

GIRL! Gone are the days of having to go borrow hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy that storefront. So much of what you need to do to start a business is free.

  • Facebook business page - Free

  • Instagram business profile - Free

  • Pinterest business account - Free

  • Email List via Mailchimp - Free

  • Domain Name (your URL) - $15-$20

  • Squarespace Website - Start for as little as $12

You can literally get started for less than $100. Ok ok I know some of you are saying “Rae I don't have ANY extra cash”. Well then sell something! You could totally put that Coach purse or that little side table sitting in the garage on Facebook Marketplace. Sell whatever it takes to get the ball rolling! I’d hate to know my life could have forever been changed but wasn’t because I didn’t have an extra $40.

ACTION STEP - Set a budget and sell something!

Lie #5 - No One Cares What I Have To Offer

I am SO guilty of this one and it is a lie straight from the devil! It wasn’t that long ago I remember thinking “Why would they hire me nobody cares what I have to say”. The truth is you and I have something valuable to offer! God has gifted each of us with unique talents and abilities and we should use them to help others! BELIEVE IT!

ACTION STEP - Find a scripture that speaks to you about your gifts and keep it on repeat in your mind.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.. Psalm 139:14a (NIV)

Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. 1 Peter 4:10 (NIV)

I want to use my talents and abilities to encourage you to kick these lies to the curb and GO for it in your business. I know you can do it! I’ve created a checklist of things you need to do in order to get started. You can grab it below.

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    5 Ways to Climb Your Way Out of a Business Funk

    UGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHH!  I'm pretty sure I claimed 2017 was going to be my best year yet! But y'all, I blinked and it's freakin' November!  Don't get me wrong there have been some amazing moments but entrepreneurship can be such a roller coaster.  It will make you all warm and fuzzy on Monday and kick your butt on Friday! 

    Just this year I lost my bookkeeper and my VA!  Both of these gals were SO darn good and it rocked my world when they said goodbye.  I launched a pop up coaching service only to have ZERO sign up for it.  I fell in love with a brand new platform, Anchor, only to ignore it for the last 2 months.  I vowed to launch a course in the fall only to put it off for the umpteenth time.  With all this being said feelings of overwhelm, stress, boredom, burnout, and/or bitterness start to creep in and replace the passion and drive that was pumping through my veins in January.

    So what's a girl to do when she gets in a funk?  I could quit.  BAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!  Yeah right!  Did I have you going there for a minute?  I hope you know me better than that!  What about you?  Have you sunk in a funk?  Are your business hours filled with feelings of defeat instead of optimism?  Giiiiiiirl, I feel ya'!  Let's crawl out together?!  

    1. Mood Music - Sometimes a funk is just a moment.  Like a bad day.  These short lived times can often be cured for me with the perfect tunes!  I like to create separate playlists in Spotify according to different moods.
    2. Step Away - I wish all "funks" could be cured by great music.  The truth is there are times when not even Pharrell Williams singing the Happy song live in your office could fix it.  It may take you stepping away for a moment.  It may be unplugging from social media for a week or taking a weekend for yourself.  Lauren Black is launching her Bosscation this week (a business retreat in a box).  This would be a great way to dive back into your business and rekindle the passion you had at the beginning of the year!  You could also use this time to reflect on things that trigger "the funk" and write them down!
    3. Come Back Strong - Whether you take a day off or month off, come back strong!  Have a plan of attack.  You know what those triggers are so make sure you have a game plan when they start happening.  For example, I had a wedding every weekend in October.  Why in the world would I think I could handle blogging and social media that month?  So when the month is over I have accomplished zilch when it comes to that part of my business and I the failure funk starts attacking.  My goal from now on is to use a slow month to prep and schedule all of this ahead of time!  DUH!
    4. Jesus - Y'all know I can't do this without Him!  I love this verse:

      Why would you ever complain, O Jacob, or, whine, Israel, saying, “God has lost track of me. He doesn’t care what happens to me”? Don’t you know anything? Haven’t you been listening? God doesn’t come and go. God lasts. He’s Creator of all you can see or imagine. He doesn’t get tired out, doesn’t pause to catch his breath. And he knows everything, inside and out. He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts. For even young people tire and drop out, young folk in their prime stumble and fall. But those who wait upon God get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind. - Isaiah 40:31 (MSG)

    5. Mastermind - I am SO excited about this!!  I am part of The Savvy Community by Heather Crabtree and last week she launched mastermind groups.  I just know this is going to be a game changer for me!  Having people to bounce ideas off of, be real with, share your struggles and funks with will no doubt be AMAZING!  I haven't even started and I highly recommend it.  Even if you can't be part of a mastermind group, find another biz bestie you can talk to and build a relationship with.  

    Like I said above it is a roller coaster!  And on the up side of this crazy coaster, Le Rae Events has whipped out some pretty spectacular weddings and killed it with our last styled shoot.  I am grateful for that!  

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