5 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Defeat

Sometimes, life is tough. Like, call home cryin' to mama and eating a pint of Ben & Jerry's kind of tough. I've been there more times than I can count, which means I'm sure you have too at some point or another. Sometimes it'll be bickering kids that send you over the top. Sometimes it'll be looming work deadlines that have you sweating bullets. Other times it'll be trying to figure out your dadgum cell phone bill, and then there will be times you feel like you just aren't cut out for this wedding business thing.

Whatever it is, and whenever it hits, just remember - God is on your side and He created you to live this life you're living. You can do anything you set your mind to and He made you to be a mover and a shaker, someone with enough faith and power to move mountains!

I also thought I'd share with you what helps me get rid of feelings of defeat when they come my way, in the hopes that it will help and encourage you when tough times hit.


1. My Faith

Of course this is my number one!  Claiming scripture like Romans 8:37 "....we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us" helps me tremendously!  And I don't mind being pretty bold with it.  Some may think this to be silly, but I don't!  I will say, "God you said I was more than a conqueror!  I need your help because I don't feel anything like that today!"

2. Surround yourself with positive people

This is a MUST!  When something is going wrong, don't call your friend that is always in a bad mood or complaining. I want someone to speak life into my situation, challenge me, and help pull me up. The worst thing to do is invite someone to join in on the pity party. You will remain in the exact same spot and things won't get better that way!

3. Help someone else

If we are in a sour place but make a decision to help someone else, it can totally shift our focus.  We stop dwelling on our own problems and our attention is turned elsewhere. Or, we realize that what we are going through is nothing compared to the problems another person is facing. This can turn our sense of defeat into a feeling of thankfulness.

4. Take a day

If you are overwhelmed, down, feeling defeated, etc, there is nothing wrong with taking a day to yourself. Schedule a day to watch movies in bed, grab a book and a blanket and find a park, book a hotel and sleep for the day, go get a pedi - the list goes on and on with possibilities! Too many of us #girlbosses see this as laziness. I think it is better described as healthiness!

5. Set a small goal - and get it done!

The feeling of defeat can be stifling. Try to set a small, very achievable goal and DO IT already!  That quick sense of accomplishment may be just the push you need to overcome this yuckiness!


I know this isn't directly related to wedding planning, but as female entrepreneurs I know defeat is something we will all face at one point or another. I hope hearing what helps me will help you when it does! 

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